Meeting Fellow Techies
So, this weekend I took a break from staring at a computer screen and actually decided to attend a meetup of some fellow techies, who also like me do not get out of their offices and houses enough but choose to work alone. While, this meetup was about the new trends in technology and how apps are growing at an alarming rate that few could have predicted, I met a couple of women who were actually not talking about technology or any of the geeky stuff. A couple of these women were actually talking about men and how it has been hard for them to find someone they could connect with. It is very interesting, as I never ever thought about these things much as I am happily dating for a bit now, but have to say that chatting with these women was insightful and amusing at the same time, and to be honest a good change to speak about humans and not about technology (even though I love it).
So my question to all my readers is what would you do….if you were hanging out with a bunch of people who were single and looking. Would you just listen, would you leave or would you try and speak about something else? Well, here is what I did…I actually decided to take some action and while chatting with them I looked a bunch of books that could help them, and while doing so I came across what is called the respect principle. According to what men secretly want by James Bauer, a dating coach and author, men place a lot more importance to respect than they do to even love. Yes, you heard that right…men want to be respected even more than wanting to be loved by the women in their lives. This is the crazy part, while trying to help others, I found information that is useful to me as well. Now, after sharing what I had found with my new friends I found it interesting that they reacted so differently to the same information. Even though that is usually the case with most things, their reactions were just not what I had expected.
So, even though I decided to take action rather than just complain, it seems like not everyone is ready for action and needs to find their own time and way to go about things. In any case, I have decided that the next time anything like this happens, I would rather just listen or even leave than to simply stand there listening to people complain.
Have you ever had any such crazy instances where you attempt to help someone falls flat? Anyway, will be back with more of the usual techie stuff in the next post.